Nathan Daniel: 0:01
Welcome back to be you and be real. I'm excited that you're here for chapter two. In chapter two, I'm actually going to dive into my story a little bit. I'm your host, Nathan, Daniel. And let's get ready, I'm gonna cue up the music. And let's dive into this chapter. All right. Alright. So in this chapter, I want to dive in and go back to episode one where I was actually talking to a gentleman by the name of Mike. So Mike, I met in an airport, I was actually sitting at midway airport in Chicago, and I was scheduled to be on stage the next day, speaking at an event, and I was going to be telling my story of kind of my journey and how I come to be where I was at at that moment in time. And as I was sitting down and having this conversation with Mike, he kind of had a break down moment where he was like, you know exactly where you're at today, or a year ago is where I'm at today. And so I want to take you back, I want to take you back to that moment in time, where I had an awakening, I had, I had allowed myself to become a zombie, if you will, and I allowed myself to start living on somebody else's path other than my own. And, and it wasn't my their fault. I will say this upfront, it was not by their fault by any means. It was something I allowed myself to do. And what happens all along the way, sometimes our reality shifts. So it started back I was in a I was in a leadership position in an organization. And I absolutely loved it. I loved the people I was working with, I loved the environment I was working with and and just all along the way, I learned so many lessons, right, whether it was business, but and also personal lessons that I learned all along the way. But after doing it for a long period of time, there was a lot of pressure in this in this role. And along the way, I kind of started feeling myself getting lost. And if you've ever felt that way where you walk in, and you're just kind of in zombie mode, and you're you're showing up, but you're not really present. That's where I was at. And all of a sudden, I was in this course and this course promoted actually writing a letter to yourself a year out. And I'd forgotten that I was in that course because I'd taken that multiple times. But all of a sudden, in this mail in my mailbox, I get this letter, and I knew what was in the letter. You see, what they had you do is they had you write to your future self, what you hope to accomplish, and the dreams that you hope to accomplish the goals financially and, and what that would mean for yourself and your family and your business. And, and I knew when I got that letter that I didn't want to open it. And it was the first time that I've gotten a letter that I was nervous about opening it. And so it sat on my counter for about a week. And my wife finally said, Alright, it's time open this letter up. And let's look at it. And when I did, I kind of broke down I had a moment where I realized for the first time that I'd gotten this letter, and I'd received like seven other letters before that. I hadn't accomplished a single thing in that letter. And what it did is it kind of triggered me it triggered me to a moment of Okay, what am I doing? And why am I doing this. And it awakened me from a state of being an extreme burnout. And just like I said before a walking zombie that I finally had this moment of Am I happy doing what I doing. And so I called a one of my one of my coaches lover to death. Her name is Denise Ackerman, and I'm sure I'll have her on the show in the future. And she'll talk about this, but she started taking me through an exercise. And what got me the most was when we got on our first call. And it was zoom. And she looked at me and she coached me when I was a young real estate agent and she knew how on fire I was to change the world and do all these big things. And just a big visionary. Well, she ended up looking at me straight through zoom. And she said, Nathan, where's the kid? You're dead inside. There's no fire. I see no spark in you right now. And so from that moment, we started a journey together. And she took me through this exercise where I had to do a lot of internal reflecting and everything. But what I realized is I wasn't happy anymore in that specific role. And again, I want to say this, I'm not talking negative on that role, because again, I learned so much I'm so appreciative of that opportunity that I earned there. And it made me a part of who I am today because that's all about our story, right? We have these life experiences. All along the way that craft is as who we are. And we have to tell this and that's why I'm telling the story right now is, is I had that awakening moment. And it took a couple months, it took a couple months for me to have that moment and realization and that hard fact, because I'd accomplished a lot of things. My wife and I have been trying for several years, another chapter, but we tried for several years to have our son. And finally he was, he was with us. And he was about to be two years old at the time. And, you know, one of my goals since I was 14 years old, was to be able to, to allow her the opportunity to be a stay at home mom, if she chose to do that. And we were in this world. And all of a sudden, I thought I was in a role where I was going to be there for 15 to 20 years. And next thing I know, terror and fear started kicking in because I wasn't happy. And I didn't see myself living that world for much longer. And so I had to explore what was next. And as I took this journey and found my passion and found what I loved and explored, what if it were possible? And what if I could do it alongside of Denise and the lessons that she taught me. It opened my eyes that I lost my authentic self along the way. And I allowed myself to start living on somebody else's journey and somebody else's path. What's there's nothing wrong with, but it wasn't my path to live anymore. And so at a moment, at a fork in the road, I had to make a decision to continue on that path or step away. And so I decided to step away. And and it was a hard moment, there was a hard, hard, hard, extreme moment, because I had no idea what I was going to do. But I knew I had to step out in faith. And that moment came at church, whether you're whether you go to church or whatever, spiritual, hey, I go to church, I'm gonna talk about it. But at the end of this at this church service that we walked into one Sunday, we were late. Again, I was a zombie. I was in zombie mode at the time. So we were late. We sat in the back of the room, we dropped Callen off at Sunday school. And all of a sudden, we just packed like churches packed and there's somebody new up leading worship for that Sunday. And apparently, she was really good, like written songs for some amazing bands, and productions and all sorts of stuff has their own band. And they were bringing it I mean, people were like in the moment of worship, and I wasn't, I just felt nothing inside, I felt empty. And at that same moment, everybody sat down. And it was in the middle of March, I remember very vividly this, this experience, when our pastor was doing a series called the assist. And you know, following March Madness, basketball, that's what it's all about. So he did this, this and he looked down, he said, Hey, I'm going to do an assist. Today, I'm actually bringing up a very good friend of mine, and brought him up on stage. And he started sharing the lesson, right? There was a lesson that was planned around the assist, and everything else, and it was very crafted very well. But about five minutes into his message, he stopped. The pastor stopped and looked over at our pastor and said, Hey, I have to I have to deviate from our lesson. If I get back to it, I will. But he started talking about some of the fruits of the Spirit and other things that he that he preached on. And he talks about why he focused primarily on youth and he wife focuses on large conferences and speaking at large conferences, because he has the ability to speak to crowds. And along the way, he just felt something moving in him to share his what he was being told at that moment. And he said, so he did. So he asked all of us to stand up, he asked us to get in a mode of prayer and mode of worship. And so I set up a setup with everybody else bowed my head, again, not really feeling anything at this moment. And in that moment, he starts talking and praying. And he says, you know, there's some people in this room dealing with fertility issues. And don't worry, you know, God's got you have faith in him. He's He's good. And no joke, like, this is what I heard all of a sudden he speaks and he says, You sir, in the back of the room, are going to start a business this year. And you're going to impact the lives of 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of people and you don't have to know the how or the why you just have to faith. So of course what happens. I am grown man ugly cry in the middle of this service. And in that moment, there was instant peace that I knew if I stepped out in faith that I would be taken care of and the and the message and what I needed to deliver to the world. It was going to be okay. And actually in that moment is where this idea of be you and be real came from. It was finding your authentic Take voice and being okay, sharing that with the world and not letting others judge you based upon that, right sharing your authentic story. And living on your path. Right? We again, I've said this a second ago, but we live in a, in a world of circumstances and situations that create who we are today. The lessons that we learn along the way are how we're crafted. And so through all of that experience, I was sharing this with the gentleman Mike. And it allowed him in that moment to take some time and reflect on his own world and where he lived at. And again, I wish I would have written his name down his full name down, but all I know is his name was Mike, he went on his plane, I went on my plane after we got cleared to take off. And all I know, is that if I hadn't have shared my story at that moment, I'm not sure Mike would have heard that. And he probably would have gone on with his life as normal. But maybe just maybe, that message resonated with him. And he took back and he and created something in his world and, and maybe changed his life maybe changed something in his world, for the better, who knows. But that's why we have to share our stories, right, we've got to tell our story in extremely purposeful way that could have impacts and ripples throughout history. So that's a little bit of my story. That's a portion a chapter of my life. And I hope that it meant something to you. And that's what I hope get out of this show, is to share moments like this and chapters of people's lives, that there are lessons to be learned along the way, like be you and be real, live your authentic life. And sometimes the struggles are what lead us to our biggest breakthroughs. So thank you for joining me on this chapter where I shared a portion of my life and I look forward to seeing you on the next chapter of the USB real. Well, thank you for tuning in to this chapter of the Be You and Be Real podcast If you like what you heard, be ure to subscribe and leave us a ive star review. If you or som one you know is looking to s are your story go to be you an be real.com to inquire ho to become a guest on the s ow. Until next time, live your ife on purpose, be you and be r al. We'll see in the next chapNathan Daniel: 0:01
Welcome back to be you and be real. I'm excited that you're here for chapter two. In chapter two, I'm actually going to dive into my story a little bit. I'm your host, Nathan, Daniel. And let's get ready, I'm gonna cue up the music. And let's dive into this chapter. All right. Alright. So in this chapter, I want to dive in and go back to episode one where I was actually talking to a gentleman by the name of Mike. So Mike, I met in an airport, I was actually sitting at midway airport in Chicago, and I was scheduled to be on stage the next day, speaking at an event, and I was going to be telling my story of kind of my journey and how I come to be where I was at at that moment in time. And as I was sitting down and having this conversation with Mike, he kind of had a break down moment where he was like, you know exactly where you're at today, or a year ago is where I'm at today. And so I want to take you back, I want to take you back to that moment in time, where I had an awakening, I had, I had allowed myself to become a zombie, if you will, and I allowed myself to start living on somebody else's path other than my own. And, and it wasn't my their fault. I will say this upfront, it was not by their fault by any means. It was something I allowed myself to do. And what happens all along the way, sometimes our reality shifts. So it started back I was in a I was in a leadership position in an organization. And I absolutely loved it. I loved the people I was working with, I loved the environment I was working with and and just all along the way, I learned so many lessons, right, whether it was business, but and also personal lessons that I learned all along the way. But after doing it for a long period of time, there was a lot of pressure in this in this role. And along the way, I kind of started feeling myself getting lost. And if you've ever felt that way where you walk in, and you're just kind of in zombie mode, and you're you're showing up, but you're not really present. That's where I was at. And all of a sudden, I was in this course and this course promoted actually writing a letter to yourself a year out. And I'd forgotten that I was in that course because I'd taken that multiple times. But all of a sudden, in this mail in my mailbox, I get this letter, and I knew what was in the letter. You see, what they had you do is they had you write to your future self, what you hope to accomplish, and the dreams that you hope to accomplish the goals financially and, and what that would mean for yourself and your family and your business. And, and I knew when I got that letter that I didn't want to open it. And it was the first time that I've gotten a letter that I was nervous about opening it. And so it sat on my counter for about a week. And my wife finally said, Alright, it's time open this letter up. And let's look at it. And when I did, I kind of broke down I had a moment where I realized for the first time that I'd gotten this letter, and I'd received like seven other letters before that. I hadn't accomplished a single thing in that letter. And what it did is it kind of triggered me it triggered me to a moment of Okay, what am I doing? And why am I doing this. And it awakened me from a state of being an extreme burnout. And just like I said before a walking zombie that I finally had this moment of Am I happy doing what I doing. And so I called a one of my one of my coaches lover to death. Her name is Denise Ackerman, and I'm sure I'll have her on the show in the future. And she'll talk about this, but she started taking me through an exercise. And what got me the most was when we got on our first call. And it was zoom. And she looked at me and she coached me when I was a young real estate agent and she knew how on fire I was to change the world and do all these big things. And just a big visionary. Well, she ended up looking at me straight through zoom. And she said, Nathan, where's the kid? You're dead inside. There's no fire. I see no spark in you right now. And so from that moment, we started a journey together. And she took me through this exercise where I had to do a lot of internal reflecting and everything. But what I realized is I wasn't happy anymore in that specific role. And again, I want to say this, I'm not talking negative on that role, because again, I learned so much I'm so appreciative of that opportunity that I earned there. And it made me a part of who I am today because that's all about our story, right? We have these life experiences. All along the way that craft is as who we are. And we have to tell this and that's why I'm telling the story right now is, is I had that awakening moment. And it took a couple months, it took a couple months for me to have that moment and realization and that hard fact, because I'd accomplished a lot of things. My wife and I have been trying for several years, another chapter, but we tried for several years to have our son. And finally he was, he was with us. And he was about to be two years old at the time. And, you know, one of my goals since I was 14 years old, was to be able to, to allow her the opportunity to be a stay at home mom, if she chose to do that. And we were in this world. And all of a sudden, I thought I was in a role where I was going to be there for 15 to 20 years. And next thing I know, terror and fear started kicking in because I wasn't happy. And I didn't see myself living that world for much longer. And so I had to explore what was next. And as I took this journey and found my passion and found what I loved and explored, what if it were possible? And what if I could do it alongside of Denise and the lessons that she taught me. It opened my eyes that I lost my authentic self along the way. And I allowed myself to start living on somebody else's journey and somebody else's path. What's there's nothing wrong with, but it wasn't my path to live anymore. And so at a moment, at a fork in the road, I had to make a decision to continue on that path or step away. And so I decided to step away. And and it was a hard moment, there was a hard, hard, hard, extreme moment, because I had no idea what I was going to do. But I knew I had to step out in faith. And that moment came at church, whether you're whether you go to church or whatever, spiritual, hey, I go to church, I'm gonna talk about it. But at the end of this at this church service that we walked into one Sunday, we were late. Again, I was a zombie. I was in zombie mode at the time. So we were late. We sat in the back of the room, we dropped Callen off at Sunday school. And all of a sudden, we just packed like churches packed and there's somebody new up leading worship for that Sunday. And apparently, she was really good, like written songs for some amazing bands, and productions and all sorts of stuff has their own band. And they were bringing it I mean, people were like in the moment of worship, and I wasn't, I just felt nothing inside, I felt empty. And at that same moment, everybody sat down. And it was in the middle of March, I remember very vividly this, this experience, when our pastor was doing a series called the assist. And you know, following March Madness, basketball, that's what it's all about. So he did this, this and he looked down, he said, Hey, I'm going to do an assist. Today, I'm actually bringing up a very good friend of mine, and brought him up on stage. And he started sharing the lesson, right? There was a lesson that was planned around the assist, and everything else, and it was very crafted very well. But about five minutes into his message, he stopped. The pastor stopped and looked over at our pastor and said, Hey, I have to I have to deviate from our lesson. If I get back to it, I will. But he started talking about some of the fruits of the Spirit and other things that he that he preached on. And he talks about why he focused primarily on youth and he wife focuses on large conferences and speaking at large conferences, because he has the ability to speak to crowds. And along the way, he just felt something moving in him to share his what he was being told at that moment. And he said, so he did. So he asked all of us to stand up, he asked us to get in a mode of prayer and mode of worship. And so I set up a setup with everybody else bowed my head, again, not really feeling anything at this moment. And in that moment, he starts talking and praying. And he says, you know, there's some people in this room dealing with fertility issues. And don't worry, you know, God's got you have faith in him. He's He's good. And no joke, like, this is what I heard all of a sudden he speaks and he says, You sir, in the back of the room, are going to start a business this year. And you're going to impact the lives of 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of people and you don't have to know the how or the why you just have to faith. So of course what happens. I am grown man ugly cry in the middle of this service. And in that moment, there was instant peace that I knew if I stepped out in faith that I would be taken care of and the and the message and what I needed to deliver to the world. It was going to be okay. And actually in that moment is where this idea of be you and be real came from. It was finding your authentic Take voice and being okay, sharing that with the world and not letting others judge you based upon that, right sharing your authentic story. And living on your path. Right? We again, I've said this a second ago, but we live in a, in a world of circumstances and situations that create who we are today. The lessons that we learn along the way are how we're crafted. And so through all of that experience, I was sharing this with the gentleman Mike. And it allowed him in that moment to take some time and reflect on his own world and where he lived at. And again, I wish I would have written his name down his full name down, but all I know is his name was Mike, he went on his plane, I went on my plane after we got cleared to take off. And all I know, is that if I hadn't have shared my story at that moment, I'm not sure Mike would have heard that. And he probably would have gone on with his life as normal. But maybe just maybe, that message resonated with him. And he took back and he and created something in his world and, and maybe changed his life maybe changed something in his world, for the better, who knows. But that's why we have to share our stories, right, we've got to tell our story in extremely purposeful way that could have impacts and ripples throughout history. So that's a little bit of my story. That's a portion a chapter of my life. And I hope that it meant something to you. And that's what I hope get out of this show, is to share moments like this and chapters of people's lives, that there are lessons to be learned along the way, like be you and be real, live your authentic life. And sometimes the struggles are what lead us to our biggest breakthroughs. So thank you for joining me on this chapter where I shared a portion of my life and I look forward to seeing you on the next chapter of the USB real. Well, thank you for tuning in to this chapter of the Be You and Be Real podcast If you like what you heard, be ure to subscribe and leave us a ive star review. If you or som one you know is looking to s are your story go to be you an be real.com to inquire ho to become a guest on the s ow. Until next time, live your ife on purpose, be you and be r al. We'll see in the next chap